Confession, Conflict, and Reconciliation

In Christian counseling, I have found that three elements stand out as essential components for effective resolution for both presenting and underlying issues: Confession, Conflict, and Reconciliation. During the course of my training, I quickly identified these three to be mainstays of not only what occurs during the course of a counseling session, but also helpful guideposts of how well the process of counseling is proceeding.  It is the counselor’s responsibility to help manage these three aspects of the session so that our clients will benefit from the manner in which they can come to grips with them in their … continue reading…

Marital Contract vs. Marital Covenant

We live in an extremely litigious society, where almost everything needs to be spelled out in legalese to feel secure.  But what happens when a marriage seems more like a contract than the covenant God intends?  It is always interesting to ask a Christian couple, who are having marital problems, whether their marriage is contractual or covenantal. Every time the husband and wife will both pipe up, ‘Covenantal’.  But when the difference is explained to them, they will almost always agree that their marriage is mainly contractual. A contract is inherently self-focused and self-centered.  It is about getting the most … continue reading…