Maturity in Addiction Recovery

In the world of addiction recovery there is a concept that an addict’s maturity is stunted at the age when he or she begins to use. For example, if a person begins smoking marijuana regularly at age 13, when he begins recovery at age 40, he will have the emotional maturity of a 13 year old. The theory is the same with those who abuse alcohol, cocaine, heroin or hallucinogens. As a matter of fact, many addicts use a combination of the above listed drugs. Likewise, some persons have sexual, pornography, tobacco or gambling addictions. Those who have over-eating problems … continue reading…

I Hear You (I think). Are We Listening?

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Have you ever played the game “Telephone”? One person whispers a short story or sentence one time to another person, then that person whispers it to another, and so on until the last person states aloud what he or she heard. During the process, pretty much everything in the story changes. Why does this happen? It is because communication is a very complex and interactive process.

Shame Wears a Mask

(This post is from a previous blog posted on ACAC’s blog posts in 2014.) I recently asked someone how an event went for her—she had told me about an upcoming speech she was to give, and had had some anxiety about it. She replied, “Oh, I don’t know.  Some people seemed to like it.”  With further discussion, it became evident that she was unsure how to receive a compliment when people told her she did a good job after the speech.  She observed that she has struggled all her life with accepting compliments, and admitted she didn’t know how to do that.  … continue reading…

Acknowledged Emotions are Good Emotions

It’s been two years since the Disney/Pixar release of the movie Inside Out, a film set inside the mind of an 11-year-old girl named Riley. If you haven’t seen it, the main characters are actually Riley’s emotions: Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger, and Disgust. The movie follows the antics of these 5 emotions as Riley’s family moves across the country to a new home in San Francisco.  The filmmakers show us the mayhem caused as each of her emotions try to control her behavior in their own distinct ways.  It is a complicated film and it makes several good points, but … continue reading…

Emotionally Healthy vs. Spiritually Healthy

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These two concepts are so important in how we relate to God and how we relate to others because they were so central to Jesus’ heart. In Matthew 22:36-40 the disciples asked Jesus what is the greatest commandment. He answered, “Love God with all your heart and with all your SOUL (how can we love God with our soul if we don’t even understand our souls?) and with all your mind. The second is to Love your neighbor as yourself. (How can we do that if we don’t know how to relate?) but that’s for another day! Today, let’s look … continue reading…