The Lost Art of Apology

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All of us have been hurt at one time or another by someone, and an insincere or insufficient apology leaves us even more discouraged. Our world overflows with public and private examples of poor apologies in politics, sports, business, church, and personal arenas.  Media critics demonstrate their own inability to distinguish a poor apology from a sincere one when they comment about publicly prominent apologies. Much has been written about forgiveness–what it means and what it doesn’t mean, who “deserves” it, how to achieve it, and even the health benefits of forgiving. Much less has been said about good apologies, … continue reading…

Winning the Gold!

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I love the winter Olympics! Well, actually I really only love the figure skating events, although I do follow some of the other sports because NBC makes me wait while they move back and forth through the different events. I have especially fallen in love with the ice dancing and the pairs skating over the past three or four seasons of the winter Olympics. I love the creativity, the artistry, the skill and gracefulness of the couples, the synchronicity of their moves, the colorful costumes, the selections of music and the stories they often tell.  I love watching the lifts … continue reading…

Adding Peace to Our Pace

We live in a culture that values multitasking, packed schedules, achievement, and speed. And we get bonus points when we don’t “need” a lot of sleep to make it all happen. Most of us have probably asked someone how they are doing and the response is, “busy!” Even when we bemoan how full our schedules are, there can be a level of pride in all the demands on us. This pace contributes to the high levels of anxiety seen in our current society, and while it is certainly not the only cause of anxiety it is a contributing factor worth … continue reading…

True God and Our Becoming Selves

I find myself reacting today to a familiar Evangelical concept: “The idea that we can tolerate sin in our lives while we enjoy fellowship with God is a direct contradiction[1]” (p. 77).  I grieve about this awful mischaracterization of the Biblical God that drives a wedge of distance between us and him. Consider this picture instead: The God I know joyfully enters our worst dens of iniquity and eats with us there. He is not ashamed or embarrassed by us.  He does not reject us if we do not live up to standard or wait for us to get it … continue reading…

Anger: A Secondary Emotion

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, anger is defined as “a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism.” Within the definition of anger, it is explained that anger is a secondary emotion to a primary emotion, such as: fear, embarrassment, disrespected, confusion, sadness, scared, etc. However, in our culture, we see anger portrayed quite often through individuals of all ages. As a society, we use anger in order to protect ourselves from feeling vulnerable and from displaying our more sensitive emotions.  For example, instead of displaying fear, which can be seen as a weakness, we show our anger in order … continue reading…