Adding Peace to Our Pace

We live in a culture that values multitasking, packed schedules, achievement, and speed. And we get bonus points when we don’t “need” a lot of sleep to make it all happen. Most of us have probably asked someone how they are doing and the response is, “busy!” Even when we bemoan how full our schedules are, there can be a level of pride in all the demands on us. This pace contributes to the high levels of anxiety seen in our current society, and while it is certainly not the only cause of anxiety it is a contributing factor worth … continue reading…

True God and Our Becoming Selves

I find myself reacting today to a familiar Evangelical concept: “The idea that we can tolerate sin in our lives while we enjoy fellowship with God is a direct contradiction[1]” (p. 77).  I grieve about this awful mischaracterization of the Biblical God that drives a wedge of distance between us and him. Consider this picture instead: The God I know joyfully enters our worst dens of iniquity and eats with us there. He is not ashamed or embarrassed by us.  He does not reject us if we do not live up to standard or wait for us to get it … continue reading…

Anger: A Secondary Emotion

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, anger is defined as “a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism.” Within the definition of anger, it is explained that anger is a secondary emotion to a primary emotion, such as: fear, embarrassment, disrespected, confusion, sadness, scared, etc. However, in our culture, we see anger portrayed quite often through individuals of all ages. As a society, we use anger in order to protect ourselves from feeling vulnerable and from displaying our more sensitive emotions.  For example, instead of displaying fear, which can be seen as a weakness, we show our anger in order … continue reading…

Alone At Christmas

Christmas is a time to get together with family and friends and fun and food – at least that’s what the media is telling us in movies and TV commercials. And we all know how accurately they portray real life! The truth is, our Christmas experiences might be very far removed from what the media asserts. For a multitude of reasons many of us, more than we would like to think, will be spending Christmas alone. Actually, those of us who will be alone during the holidays – either alone physically, or emotionally – have more in common with the … continue reading…

Avoiding Infection

Last spring I cut my thumb on a food processor blade and had to get stitches. The cut was a rainbow shaped wound which, with the stitches in, looked like the upward looking shark of the original “Jaws” poster! I was sent home with a list of precautions to avoid infection. Infection complicates and delays healing, and is a problem for both physical and emotional wounds. There are many different kinds of emotional infections, but only one I want to focus on here: the infection of self-pity. Self-pity is a trap we fall into when we think we are the … continue reading…