Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: Painful to live with; Easy to Not Reveal

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The general public is aware of some of the manifestations of OCD from the television, such as compulsive fear of germs in the show ”Monk”, but this disorder has many faces and can shift its target issue even in the same person. Some of the ways do not even have external behaviors others can observe.   Unlike playful television portrayals, this condition can be tortuous to a person and impair their functioning in relationships, work, and spiritual life. OCD is a disorder that frequently goes undiagnosed. Research reveals that people can be in treatment for years before this becomes a focus … continue reading…

Marital Contract vs. Marital Covenant

We live in an extremely litigious society, where almost everything needs to be spelled out in legalese to feel secure.  But what happens when a marriage seems more like a contract than the covenant God intends?  It is always interesting to ask a Christian couple, who are having marital problems, whether their marriage is contractual or covenantal. Every time the husband and wife will both pipe up, ‘Covenantal’.  But when the difference is explained to them, they will almost always agree that their marriage is mainly contractual. A contract is inherently self-focused and self-centered.  It is about getting the most … continue reading…

Changing Your Child’s Behavior Begins By Understanding His Heart

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As parents, we daily face challenges with our children and their behavior. The thought that usually occurs after witnessing our children do something that we find less than desirable— “How can I make this stop?” While that thought may lead you to a good old-fashioned time out, grounding, or loss of a privilege, we need to remember not to miss something deeper—the motivation in your child’s heart. The Bible teaches us in Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” In addition to providing a consequence for undesirable behavior, perhaps a more significant … continue reading…

Maturity in Addiction Recovery

In the world of addiction recovery there is a concept that an addict’s maturity is stunted at the age when he or she begins to use. For example, if a person begins smoking marijuana regularly at age 13, when he begins recovery at age 40, he will have the emotional maturity of a 13 year old. The theory is the same with those who abuse alcohol, cocaine, heroin or hallucinogens. As a matter of fact, many addicts use a combination of the above listed drugs. Likewise, some persons have sexual, pornography, tobacco or gambling addictions. Those who have over-eating problems … continue reading…

I Hear You (I think). Are We Listening?

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Have you ever played the game “Telephone”? One person whispers a short story or sentence one time to another person, then that person whispers it to another, and so on until the last person states aloud what he or she heard. During the process, pretty much everything in the story changes. Why does this happen? It is because communication is a very complex and interactive process.